Probably the biggest reason I dislike Egwene is posts like this one. If you don't just luuuuvvvv Egwene, you are jealous/sexist/too young or old or tall or fat to understand her.
So you dislike a character in the book because of how random people try to guess at why you dislike her? That seems a little circular...
Boom. I knew that was coming the second I read his post. Everyone knows what side of the Egwene debate I fall on but the whole jealousy thing just doesn't hold much weight. I do think how ever many people seem to be resentful at how she has gone about accomplishing everything in a somewhat unrealistic manner. To me that is somewhat unfair when we have others gaining skills from magic wishes and the like.
The problem is that Egwene gains skills and accomplishments in an unrealistic manner OUTSIDE of the series' magic system. We don't expect a character's development of magical powers to be realistic. We do expect skills such as political accumen, leadership, etc (skills that have some connection to the real world, and should not require the suspension of disbelief) to be in some way realistic. If you think about it, Egwene critics don't get too worked up about her abilities with the Power. No one criticizes her for so quickly developing great facility with the creation of cuendillar, or her ability to delve for metals. It is her entirely unrealistic attainment of abilities that have a basis in reality that are criticized.
The same could be said of her, ummm, extremely high self-esteem. Beleiving yourself to be special because you can do magic, or are a ta'veren, or have supernatural luck? Doesn't bother anyone. Believing you have all of the answers, not because you are an instrument of the pattern or because the savior of the world resides in your head, but simply because you are super-extra-special and got some advice from someone who used to hold your job? Problem.
Add to that the authors' seeming lack of awareness of the Mary Sue-ness of the character (in contrast to every other character) and it adds up to, for many, a character with little redeeming value.
And since the original poster of this nonsence is so interested, no, I was not in fact a cheerleader. But I was all-state in two sports, and did naughty, naughty things with several cheerleaders :) Granted, that was back in my more hirsuite days...
"Some advice from someone who used to hold your job?", That is a ridiculous over-simplification. There is a PoV from Siuan where she defines her motivation as making Egwene into the best Amyrlin. That's quite a ways above "some advice" from her. As if Egwene grudgingly asks advince now-and-then.
Also, Lan takes like five min to show Perrin which was is up on his axe, Perrin hates the thing and never practices, and yet Perrin seems like some unstoppable killing machine in battle. I find that far more ridiculous than Egwene, who may very well be 'suffering' from Rand's Ta'veren ripples -- A'la his statement "I see you've done your part". If Perrin was written more bloodlustly like Fitz Chivalry, where even his allies freak out over his crazy wolf-like-ness in battles, then maybe I'd buy it, but not with only a few quotes about wanting to go for throats.
And maybe some of us are overly sick if whiny baby characters who protest "buuutttt I don't wanna' be a looorrrrdddd" all the god damn time. How about someone actually take up the challenge of responsibility for once (like Egwene) and actually believe in themselves as something more than Sheppard, blacksmiths, or useless rogues. There are already enough lame books about cowardly unlikely hobbits... I mean heroes... I don't find it 'wrong' to have a character who's willing to embrace a challenge and believes the can actually succeed.
She's a know-it-all. Not so much in a knowledge sense (although she does know a lot from Siuan's training), but more as in "I'm right and everyone else is wrong." I hate to generalize, but I would bet that most people in the world are bothered by that. Who here can say they enjoy listening to someone like that? I think the term "know-it-all" pretty much sums it up, and that's why Egwene bothers so many readers.
And what else should she do? She's the leader of the white tower, she needs to make decisions given what she knows (or what she can know based on what some people [Rand] offer to tell her). She also needs to be confident in those choices until something solid comes to her attention to make her doubt.
Contrast it was Gawyn, "I Hate Rand" "Why" "He killed my mother" "No he didn't" "WELL I HATE HIM ANYWAY!" That, I can understand hating.